I make more money than my spouse or partner. How to deal?
This can be difficult, and understandably so, because there is different gender roles, and if you make more money than the man, or have more money than the man, then sometimes that can cause conflict. So it’s really important to be sensitive about this. First and foremost, it needs to be an open conversation. You can’t expect things to get worked out if you’re not discussing them. So if there is all these underlying feelings and people aren’t talking about it, than that creates distance and disconnect, and that’s never helpful for anybody. And number two is learning to be on that same team, knowing that yes, there are different thoughts and there are different feelings, and it affects different people in different ways, so it can feel oppositional, but you need to make sure that you shift to be on the same team and the same side, so that even if it feels like you’re not, you need to really get clear what the ultimate goal is for you to be a unit and for you to work through things together. And number three is to really respect that it can be difficult for your partner, or for men in general if that happens to be your partner. You just have to learn how to really have compassion, because it is difficult. You need to respect those differences.
So in sum, talk about it, be on the same team, and respect and have compassion for each other’s feelings.